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Kim Nothdurft

January 13, 2019

Not feeling 40 at all. Not who I expected to be at this age.

Categories: hard stuff, Uncategorized•Tags: disneyland, mental health, special needs, turning 40•

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If you’ve lived the special needs life for any period of time you get inconveniences can’t be avoided. You stay long enough, you prepare for them. Plan for handicap spots to be taken. Plan for no curbs, no ramps, no working elevators. You just figure something won’t work and time ahead for it because that’s your reality. Last week… bus lift didn’t work. We are at a place this school year we celebrate when it does. I don’t want to complain because our bus driver is busting his butt daily. There is a shortage in drivers and this guy is driving a bus that works about 50-60% of the time. It isn’t his fault. Also last week the recycle truck waved and went around us as we loaded Lily on the school bus and never came back to empty our bin. Huge deal, no. Inconvenient, totally. These aren’t one offs though. These things happen all the time. Actually when I see someone in public loose it over an inconvenience, I giggle. I also think it must be nice for this to make you so upset because it must mean things more than not go your way. My post isn’t a poor me post. There are so many of us living this life. So many and it isn’t a poor us, either. And I know the amazing people who see my posts are awesome people who don’t really need this comprehension- but maybe someone you know does. Maybe if we all understand the real life struggles of a smaller community of wonderful people maybe the roads can be widened enough for all of us. I don’t know. Maybe we can at least talk about it. #ableism #specialneedsmom #specialneeds #adaptive #adaption #cdkl5 #cdd

Limbo. “Great party game, terrible relationship status” -Ted Lasso

“Why is Lily still home?” Andi asks. “Lift on the bus wouldn’t work so they couldn’t bring her” I answer. All the while trying to now reconfigure my morning. “I can just take the van and bring her to school with me” Andi says. Insert silent tears of gratitude for this amazing person we call daughter 🥰🥺💖💖💖

Lily at the Basha homecoming carnival working hard pouring lemonade for friends with a switch she manipulated with her head, thanks to the clever brilliance the @believebeyondability put together 💜

Just Andi and I got to enjoy @scottsdale_selfie today! We had so much fun playing with all the backdrops and amazing ring light 🙌🏼🙌🏼 such a fun place to go with peeps you like to play around with! 5 stars ⭐️ #selfie #selfiemuseum #scottsdale #momdaughter #momofteens

I’m a huge believer in letting them be little. I am also learning in something else, letting them be big. We don’t learn from listening, we learn from doing. Experience is our best teacher. Clearly this isn’t one size fits all but when you have a really good kid who is responsible and works hard with very little breaks from school and volleyball and she asks if she and some life long friends can go to Disney for the day … we grit our teeth, help make a safe plan and say yes. We say yes to experience and responsibilities. We say yes to figuring things out and making choices and plans. We say yes to spending her own earned money and spending it on experience. I am so proud of Andi and her friends (and a little jealous) for making a quick trip out of state safely and so much fun! Thanks Disney for giving our girls a day of joy and more importantly knowledge of being capable 🤍#disney #fallbreak #parenting #momofteenagers #momofteens

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